Why fear?

Beti/beta kar lo warnaa dadaji/dadiji/whateverji gussaa ho jaayenge.

While growing up, i was not allowed to watch movies as that would make me a bad person. I was not told what would make me a good person.

Why are children made to value fear? Why do parents condition them as such? Why is gussaaa or anger wielded as a threat to be feared? Why is it so difficult for parents to break out of their own conditioning, always citing fear as an example?

What makes anger or fear a worthy weapon as compared to, say, happiness? What will it take to imagine someone saying: beti/beta kar lo toh dadaji/dadiji/whateverji khush ho jaayenge?

Will it make a difference to a growing human’s life? 
Will it make the person change the mode of thinking? 
Will it perpetuate? 
Will it make people set each up for failure, rather than setting them up for success?

The questions, and their answers, lead me and you — us — back to the question.

Why?

Published by appamprawns

soni writes about children and people in controlled spaces, in his quest for appam stew. homi writes in the hope of being able to buy prawns to make patiyo.

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